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Tips to Help You in Mediation - Preparing for Mediation/During a Mediation


Tips on Choosing a Mediator


In many ways, choosing a mediator is no different than choosing another professional such as a doctor, lawyer or an attorney. However, there is one major difference. The profession of mediation is not regulated in the State of Colorado. This means that there are no formal requirements for anybody to become a mediator. Even though there is no regulation of mediation, there are many well-trained and experienced mediators working in the Denver area. Many mediators are trained in other professions such as law or mental health and have incorporated mediation services into their current practice.



        • What specific mediation training do you have?
        • How much experience do you have in mediation? With elder disputes?
        • What other specific training do you have that may help resolve my conflict?
        • Are you a member of any professional mediation organizations?
        • How much does mediation cost and who typically pays?
        • Do I need an attorney?
        • What style(s) of mediation do you typically use? 
          Styles include Faciliative, Transformative and Evaluative.



    • You should feel comfortable talking with the mediator and get the sense that he/she is really listening to your concerns and carefully answering your questions.
    • A way to find a good mediator is to ask somebody you trust to give you a referral. This could be a friend or a professional (lawyer, financial advisor, physician, or eldercare professional) that you trust. Even with a referral like this, it is best to interview the mediator to make sure the mediator is right for you. 


Tips To Help You In Mediation

Preparing for Mediation:

    1. Think about what is really important to you. What do you want to accomplish in the mediation?
    2. Don’t blame. Think about how you can present your concerns in
      a respectful manner so that your concerns will be heard without the
      other parties getting defensive.
    3. Think about the common ground between you and the other parties.
      What are your common interests or needs?
    4. Think about what kind of relationship you would like to have with the other parties after the mediation.
    5. Do you have any concerns about meeting face-to-face with any of
      the other parties? If so, let the mediator know in advance.

During the Mediation:

    1. Be respectful to all the parties.
    2. Focus on the present and the future. You cannot change the past
      but you can change the future.
    3. Think Win/Win. Identify as many options that you can that will meet
      your interests and those of the other parties.
    4. Bring any documentation supporting your point of view.
    5. Keep an open mind and be ready to explore alternatives.

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